What You Should Never Say to a Loved One With Cancer, According to a Psychologist

What to say then? The power of sincere presence

When faced with illness, the most valuable thing isn’t necessarily finding the perfect words. It’s  simply being there . Showing a reassuring, authentic presence. Simply saying:  “I’m here for you,” “I’m thinking of you,” “I don’t know what to say, but I’m here if you need me.”

“It’s okay not to find the right words. What matters is to be present, unconditionally, without judgment, without trying to cheer people up at all costs ,” explains Amélie Boukhobza.

A respectful silence, a hand on the shoulder, a regular message to ask for news…  These simple gestures sometimes have more impact than ready-made words.

Be a support, without becoming a burden

It’s not about overdoing it, imposing yourself, or playing the savior. Support means respecting the other person’s pace and emotions. It means accepting that some days are dark, that you don’t want to talk,  or hear clichés like “everything will be fine.”

Ultimately, this is perhaps the most beautiful act of solidarity:  letting the other be exactly as he is , without pushing him, without forcing him to smile, to fight or to reassure others. Because sometimes,  a discreet presence is better than a long speech.